About Rejected, Shamed, and Blamed

Were you bullied, shamed, blamed, or rejected by a parent, sibling, or other relative growing up or as an adult? Have you been the target of a 'smear' campaign by immediate or extended family and been left feeling frustrated and confused? Have you tried to reach out for help and support and been told, "Just get over it, it's your family, it can't be that bad"?

In this comprehensive introductory guide, an internationally recognized Family Systems expert clearly identifies scapegoating as a form of psycho-emotional abuse while providing a means of understanding why dysfunctional families 'reject, shame, and blame' one of their own. Via psycho-education, self-assessment tools, and practical steps and strategies, the author describes the abusive aspects of family scapegoating and it's relationship with complex trauma (C-PTSD), as well as ways to dis-identify and recover from the 'family scapegoat' narrative. 'Links of Interest' for further reading and education are included within each chapter and in the book's 'Afterword' and 'Resource' section.

In these pages you'll discover:

  • How to recognize and identify family scapegoating abuse (FSA) signs and symptoms
  • Why scapegoated individuals have difficulty finding help
  • How complex trauma (C-PTSD), and 'toxic shame' impede FSA recovery
  • Why the family 'Empath' can end up scapegoated
  • How to establish boundaries if your trauma response is 'fawning'
  • How to recover and realign with your 'true self'

This life is the only one you'll have, and your story is precious and unique. If you're struggling to understand family scapegoat dynamics and want to recover and reclaim your 'true self' identity, this book's for you.

FSA Self-Assessment is included but should not be used for diagnostic purposes.

Clinicians and Coaches may also find this introductory book helpful. Please read the 'Afterword' for more information and resources.

“A much needed adjunct to the Family Systems model. Validating for those who have been impacted by family scapegoating dynamics. Mandeville provides a solid pathway for recovering from this kind of abuse. Recommended reading for those suffering in the family scapegoat role as well as Mental Health professionals.“ – Shellie Krick, MSW

- Those who appreciate reading about healing from the effects of Dysfunctional or Toxic Families; Narcissistic Abuse; Narcissistic Families; Complex Trauma (C-PTSD); Dysfunctional Family Dynamics; Multigenerational Trauma; Empaths; (the) Highly Sensitive Person (HSP); and Adult Survivors of Child Abuse will likely appreciate this book.

©2020 | Rebecca C. Mandeville | All Rights Reserved

ISBN: 9781393229773 (ebook) / Published Date: 2020-08-26

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About Rebecca C. Mandeville MFT

Rebecca C. Mandeville MFT


Rebecca C. Mandeville was born and raised in the San Francisco Bay Area, and has been serving clients in her Psychotherapy and Recovery Coaching practices for the past twenty years. She served as Core Faculty at the world-renowned 'Institute of Transpersonal Psychology', where she first began to identify, describe, and define what she later named 'Family Scapegoating Abuse' (FSA). A recognized expert in her field, Rebecca writes regularly on her 'Psych Central' blog about recovering from dysfunctional family systems and scapegoating's effects on individuals, organizations, and institutions.

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